In these days, most of us have lived together for a while before the talks of marriage come up. We know each other rather well already and will, hopefully, be quite familiar with our future spouses – so why do we have to have these conversations before getting married?
While you might have lived together for years, there are still many things that will happen in your future together that you should have talked about first. These are the things we don’t really focus on too much while we’re still young and relatively care-free but that we, as fully grown adults, should have discussed at one point.
Here are a couple of the most important things to have discussed before you start on the rest of your lives so that you avoid those misunderstandings in the future.
First: Talk About Children
Sure, you either want children or you don’t – so what else is there to talk about? When we choose our partners, we tend to think at least subconsciously about the things that would make them a great parent.
You’ve already chosen them for their stunning looks and ability to laugh at stupid things but there are, in fact, other things to being a parent besides from everything they might pass down genetically.
How do you think their parenting style might be, for example? Will your overly laidback upbringing crash with their stricter and more traditional upbringing or will it be the perfect mix your kids will need?
While you don’t have to agree on everything, it’s important to have talked through this so that you know where you stand. When you do have kids, it’s all about being united, after all, and not teaching them different things behind each other’s back.
Next: Discuss Finances
So far, you probably have a good understanding of how your SO views finances – and if you don’t, you’ll definitely have it after the wedding.
Some people don’t mind spending a lot of money on a fancy wedding and 77 Diamonds eternity rings while others feel like they could easily do without the ring and the expensive wedding. Everyone is different, in other words, and you need to know where your partner stands when you plan your future together.
Most couples argue about finances above everything else and the more you understand your partner’s point of view, the easier it’s going to be to steer clear of these arguments. When you know each other and understand your partner, it’s a lot easier to be empathetic and on each other’s side, after all.
Discuss your plants in terms of savings as well whether you’d like to keep your finances combined or separate – and keep his or her opinions in mind when you’re about to make a financial decision.
Being married is, after all, all about being a team and teams will always consult with each other before making any big decisions. Try to get these conversations over with before the big day and you’re going to save yourself a lot of headaches, arguments, and frustration in the future.
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